I am going to pull my thoughts from Brent A Barlow’s talk that was done at the BYU Campus during Education Week in 2006. If you would like to see it, I would recommend that you go to byutv.org and press “find a talk” then put in the title “choosing a marriage partner” and watch on the video. Anything in parenthesis are comments that I am making.
God cannot steer a Parked Car! (We need to be going to the activities and making ourselves available to be able to meet our future friends and loved ones)
If you don’t date, you don’t mate. (This is a very true statement.)
Alma 60:21: Do ye suppose that the Lord will still deliver us, while we sit upon our thrones and do not make use of the means which the Lord has provided for us? (We will never meet someone if we do not get out of the house and off of our “Throne”.)
If having a difficult time in a relationship, ask the Golden Question: If we were to be married someday, when would that be?
Dating is like going to the Zoo – you get to see the animals, but not in their natural habitat. (Which is why I truly encourage dating for up to a year before making any decisions)
Marry someone much like yourself. (This is so that you can actually agree on things as well as encourage each other. Try talking about gardening if your spouse is interested only in sports. It is an effort that would be defeated unless he is willing to open up his heart.)
Just because you love someone does not mean you should marry them. Love is not enough. (I should have had this advice with my first couple of choices…)
There is no such thing as the one and only. (If this was true and the one and only died, or chose someone else, where would that leave you?)
We expect too much from our spouse. (And this leads to too many divorces!)
There are ‘Weeds and Seeds’ in a marriage. We are to grow the seeds and pull the weeds. (Think of it, do you really think that the way you wash dishes or clean your room is perfect? I know that I am far from it! But be willing to make the effort to change)
Ezra Taft Benson stated “Don’t expect perfection in your choice of a mate”. (To be by their side, we would have to be perfect as well, I am not ready to be that good, so how can I expect my husband to be the same?)
There is a children’s book called Fanny’s Dream. It really helps to understand so much about ourselves. Lastly, there are 2 more thoughts that I pulled from this talk that were very good…
60% of marriages come from networking. (Yes, your co-worker, your family, your ward may know the perfect match for you.
And for those who have been on missions: Referrals-not Tracting!!!