President George Albert Smith quoted, “You know, when I was growing up I never saw a difference of opinion between my father and my mother. I used to think it was a miracle, and after I had been married for twenty years, I knew it was a miracle.”
Having a difference of opinion is a good thing in a relationship. It brings another dimension to a single concept.
If I only had vanilla ice cream in my life, I would not have thought that there were other flavors out there and would have been content until someone introduced me to another flavor. To find that there is a world of flavors is an amazing thing!
Now how does this factor into a relationship? I find that to have another way of seeing things can help me be a better person-as long as we are both willing to view each other’s perspectives. That can be the hard part.
President Spencer W. Kimball was always straightforward and he said, “Two people coming from different backgrounds soon learn after the ceremony is performed that stark reality must be faced. There is no longer a life of fantasy or of make-believe; we must come out of the clouds and put our feet firmly on the earth. Responsibility must be assumed and new duties must be accepted. Some personal freedoms must be relinquished, and many adjustments, unselfish adjustments, must be made.”
“One comes to realize very soon after the marriage that the spouse has weaknesses not previously revealed or discovered.” The virtues which were constantly magnified during courtship now grow relatively smaller, and the weaknesses which seemed so small and insignificant during courtship now grow to sizable proportions. The hour has come for understanding hearts, for self-appraisal, and for good common sense, reasoning and planning. The habits of years now show themselves; the spouse may be stingy or prodigal, lazy or industrious, devout or irreligious, may be kind and cooperative or petulant and cross, demanding or giving egotistical or self-effacing. The in-law problem comes closer into focus, and the relationship of the spouses to them is again magnified.”
May we become more and more willing to appreciate each other’s differences instead of focusing on each other’s weaknesses.