Joseph Smith said, “Happiness is the object and design of our Existence: and will be the end thereof, if we pursue the path that leads to it; and this path is virtue, uprightness, faithfulness, holiness, and keeping all the commandments of God”. If that is the case, why then are so many of us unhappy? It is time to look within our hearts to see what is creating that unhappiness and change it! If we want to attract that special person into our lives, we need to make the changes that will do so. How can you find a happy person if you are not happy yourself? This is a day-by-day process. You cannot expect to change your heart overnight (it can happen, but takes a lot of faith and trust in our Heavenly Father-many of us are not ready to do that so quickly). So, like many of us, it is a series of choices each day. Ask yourself-“in doing this thing, will it make my life happier?” each time that you need to make a decision.In doing so, you will find that with each good choice, you will feel happier, you will have more energy and you will attract many of those who want to be happy as well.
President Spencer W. Kimball has counseled our youth “our young people should drive down stakes early, indicating their paths. The stakes are of two kinds: ‘This I will do’ and ‘This I will not do.’ These decisions pertain to general activities, standards, spiritual goals, and personal programs. They should include anticipations for marriage and family. Very early, youth should have been living by a plan…When such a course is charted and the goal is set, it is easier to resist the many temptations and to say ‘no’ to the first cigarette, ‘no’ to the first drink, ‘no’ to the car ride which will take one to the dark, lonely and hazardous places. ‘No’ to the first improper advances which lead eventually to immoral practices.”
We are never too old to make these same decisions. It is a hard thing to do, but with each other, we have the support and love of each other to help us to stick to our choices. Remember, we are going to activities for friendship, for support, for understanding. If a relationship happens that is good and leads to the Temple, it is a great bonus.